Any change, even a change for the better, is always accompanied by drawbacks and discomforts.
– Arnold Bennett

It’s five months into my post-op life, and I have made a few observations. Not only am I finding out that I do, indeed, have a collarbone and cheekbones, I’m remembering what it feels like to fit into a booth at a restaurant, fit into a chair with arms, and fit into the seat belts in the back of my car.

I’ve noticed a few other things:

  • Sitting is not as comfortable with less natural padding on my backside. I actually have bones there – who knew?
  • I don’t miss the beef we’re not eating. Never thought I’d say that.
  • I am really enjoying honey in my tea – and I was never a big fan of honey before.
  • My skin, which is looser now, isn’t as saggy as I expected it to be. I still have more weight to lose, so that may change.
  • I’ve also noticed that my skin looks a little ‘doughy’ and not so firm.   I think toning exercises would help. And sunshine. On the scale of One to Tan, I am firmly at “Elmer’s Glue.”
  • Even though I now have the arms of a flying squirrel, I still cannot fly.
  • I had hoped that the weight loss would improve the swelling in my legs. It hasn’t.
  • My hair is thinner and I lose more every day. I’ve always had a thick mane, so this is a little troubling, and I’m keeping a close eye on it. I take Biotin supplements to help combat the hair loss.
  • I’m a big fan of layering and scarves. Losing all that natural insulation turned me into an ice cube. I may be cold, but I am stylishly cold!
  • I had forgotten what my ‘real’ body shape looked like. Now, I can see it again in the mirror, but it’s all closer to the floor.
  • A brisk walk doesn’t leave me winded, and my daily stretching exercises at work are easier every time I do them. That alone gives me a smile every day.
  • Along with my prescription medication, I’m taking vitamins and probiotics. I don’t have any problems with digestion, or reflux, or any of that.
  • My hands look like my mother’s. And my sister has told me repeatedly that I look so much more like my mother now. I take that as a compliment and always have.
  • People look at me more. Not my body – I don’t care about that – but my face. And by people, I mean just people in general. The people I walk past every day at work and at the store; people I don’t know. They make eye contact with me now, where before, they seemed to make it a point to avoid looking at me.
  • People treat me differently. This is a tough one – every time I’ve lost considerable weight in the past, I’ve been disappointed and hurt by that hypocrisy. I’m trying to meet it head on this time.
  • I never get tired of compliments. I appreciate it each and every time someone calls me “Skinny” or tells me I look great. It really does feel good, and I am truly grateful.

You know what else?
I fit into people’s hugs a lot better now, and I like that part the best.


photo credit Thomas Leth-Olsen


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6 thoughts on “Ch-Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes.”

  1. You have a natural beauty that some of us do not. The camera likes you. And you DO look like mother. And it IS a compliment. And I told you you would be gorgeous by Mothers’ Day. You are. The RACE is ON!

  2. Transitions are full of ups and downs, I can so relate! I’m still acclimating to the “heat” of Hawaii after 35 years in Seattle. The sun is wonderful, but so radiant it fries a ghost like me. The good part is that my hair seems to have doubled in girth. 🙂 YOU are beautiful and smart and wonderfully honest and I’ve enjoyed following your weight-loss surgery, pre and post. Hugs and much aloha, Becky!

    1. Thank you! Hugs and aloha back to you! I’m sure it’s been a wonderful change in so many ways. Maybe some day I’ll get over there to see it for myself. Thank you for the sweet compliments — they are sincerely appreciated.
      Enjoy drying the webs between your toes and getting a little color back in your Pacific NW skin! xoxoB

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