Blue Christmas.


So it’s crunch time. People are feeling rushed and stressed and irritable, and even people who really love this time of year are on edge. Christmas isn’t merry for everyone, for a lot of reasons. Some folks don’t share the faith. Some don’t care. For some, pain and suffering is in the forecast.

Lots of reasons.

But this has occupied my head rent-free for a while: how tough it can be to wade through other people’s expectations this time of year.

If you don’t feel it, you can’t force it. And nobody likes faking it, but sometimes it’s just easier that way. I get it. I do. When it hurts, you want it to stop.

So I acknowledge that this is the bottom part of the cycle of life. It isn’t any fun, so I’m sorry if you’re going through it this year. I’m here to say that it’s normal and expected, but don’t stay there too long, for your own sake.

When you are hurting, for one reason or another, it’s easy to lose hope and see life painted with a dull palette.  I think we forget that it is not life that changes; it is our perception of it.


I hope you find yourselves in a good place this season. And I hope it gets better as time goes on. We begin a new year soon.

Thanks for being here.



photo credit: Greencolander

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7 thoughts on “Blue Christmas.”

  1. Nicely done. Life has its ebb and flow and sometimes the tide stays out a little longer than we’d like. And then the saying ‘this too, shall pass’ comes true and we’re on the upswing again. Merry Christmas!

    1. Thank you. I really like how you put it — the tide staying out a little longer than we’d like. And yes, it does pass. As I get older, I see that cycle more clearly than ever before, much more than when I was a youngster and felt as if every low spot was the end of the world. Depression is real, and hard, I know – but I also know how to tell it from the blues. Merry Christmas! God bless us, every one! Love you! xoxoB

  2. Nicely said. The season has always been filled with stress for me, and peogle who have left us weigh heavily on my mind. Thank you for putting it so eloquently in words.

    1. Thank you. I think it’s natural for us to remember the folks who aren’t here to celebrate with us – those who have gone before. This is the time of year that we gather together, and those empty chairs are especially painful.
      Sometimes we don’t feel like we deserve to be happy when our loved ones are gone, but I don’t believe that’s true. It’ll be our turn to go one day, and we will want our family and friends to remember us with a smile and a laugh. Life is short. We have to find the balance. xoxoB

  3. Thank you Becky for summing up the ups and downs of this season so well. Last year was tough with my dad’s passing on December 14th and we always remember Don’s mom’s passing in December of 2008. The 20th of this month was my mom’s birthday and Don has his teenage hit and run accident to haunt him – where, thankfully memory has failed to put that back together – but the facts and recovery were/are still hard.
    For me, when our reindeer Clarence fell to a combination of wind and a wounded rear leg; the act of re-cutting, painting, and reassembling him to return our Ginormous Reindeer to his shining gloring in our front yard before Christmas was the salve I needed to help heal my broken heart with the loss of my dad. All the work was cathardic (sp?) – though I couldn’t spirit the effort to put up a Christmas tree. Don came through with a huge triangle of wood that I covered in wrapping paper then hung all the stockings with care.
    Christmas 2014 will always be remembered.
    Christmas 2015 is coming in with higher spirits. Yes, there is stress, no doubt, but all three children are joining us for dinner on Christmas Eve with families if they have them. It’s coming together and time to share is near. Merry Christmas to all.
    Love you Becky.

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