Sanker.

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I try very hard to be thankful in my life, even for the bad things. (That’s tough, but I believe you need to be grateful at both ends of the spectrum and all in between.) And I try to recognize and express my appreciation and gratitude regularly and honestly.

Tonight I was thinking about that, and I wanted to share it with you.

I like to be appreciated. I think we all do. I think it’s important to acknowledge and appreciate others. So I try to return favors and give thanks for all the thoughtful little things in my day. Mr. Stuck is the author of a great many of them, so this one’s for him:

thank you for carrying the laundry basket
thank you for opening jars (and bottles and boxes and envelopes and cans and buckets) when my hands hurt
thank you for turning off my Kindle and tucking me in at night when I fall asleep reading
thank you for the flowers you bring home for no reason at all
thank you for remembering the tasks I forget
thank you for doing the vacuuming and sweeping and mopping 
thank you for waking up in the middle of the night to help me with my excruciating leg cramps
thank you for eating whatever I cook without complaint and for trying new things
thank you for telling me you love me every single day
thank you for being able to joke me out of a bad mood
thank you for being my interpreter when I’m not hearing well
thank you for being my cheerleader

thank you for taking the steps to be healthier and happier
thank you for helping me be happier and healthier, too

The more I express gratitude, the happier I am, and the happier I am, the more I express gratitude. My marriage is all the better for it.

Both of us make a habit of saying thank you, not just assuming the other person knows.  This is crucial.

I thank him for things he does and things he does not do. I thank him for decisions he’s made and goals he sets. I thank him for caring about me, caring about himself, and caring about us. I thank him for being a good father. I thank him for thinking of me and bringing home asparagus. I thank him for putting ice melt on the steps. I thank him for making my day – and life – easier.

Yknow, we all have plenty we can complain about.  Despite the impression some people give, it’s not a competition.

I choose instead to say thank you, and that has made a difference.

 

 

Happy New Year!

Happy Blog birthday to me (tomorrow) — I’ve managed to stick with this a year now.  But that’s not what this post is for. It’s to thank you, my readers and commenters, for making it a great first year for my blog, and to wish you all a wonderful 2014.

I have high hopes for the new year; with our health improvements, the Mister and I should be feeling great and full of energy, ready to tackle anything.  I am feeling very positive about myself and my circle of family and friends.  I am ready to return to work refreshed and recharged after my three weeks at home.

Resolutions?  Nah.  My psychotherapist friend Bobbi just wrote an excellent post for PsychCentral in which she discussed how resolutions set you up to fail: Break Your Resolutions: Bounce Back – Develop Your Resiliency.  I agree wholeheartedly with her idea to ‘break things down to make them simpler.’  I love how she lays it out; it makes sense.  Set yourself up for success, not failure!

That is how I intend to approach my 2014.  No great, sweeping announcements.  Just a private pledge to do better.  I intend to write here more often.  I intend to get moving more by using the stairs and parking farther away.  I intend to clean out the clutter in my house and in my head, and focus on what is important to me.

And I intend to celebrate my 50th birthday with a renewed sense of purpose and gratitude.

I’m glad to be where I am.  I am thankful for the life I am given, the health that is being restored to me (yay for my earglasses!), and the opportunity to make a difference – somehow, somewhere.  I am grateful to have a good job, a family who loves me no matter what, and a place to come home to every day.  I’m thankful for the support and encouragement I receive on a daily basis, from each one of you who reads my blog, to my friends, old and new, to my terrific family.

Life is good.  Remember that.  Ring in the new year however you choose, but please don’t take the chance of drinking and driving or riding with someone who does.  Life is precious!

Let the celebrations begin!!  Happy 2014!!!

Becky

 

photo credits: tacit requiem (joanneQEscober) and JD Hancock